Can you see yourself using this technique in real life?
What was your experience like?
I really liked focusing on exhaling and relaxing my belly. I feel like getting out of the monitoring mindset is difficult but I want to give this a try
I noticed my fists clenching and my body started feeling warm when I was visualising sex going wrong. It was refreshing to use these techniques and find a pleasure cue which works for me.
My jaw and chest tightened when I was imagining the threat body cue, which is usually thoughts of this won’t go well. I still feel the negative monitoring come up, but this seems like a viable tool to help work through it if I keep practicing.
Potentially. I will try and implement this in the moments I need it
It was hard to remember the exact moment the monitoring begins. I felt my breathing get shallower as I thought about it. The inhaling and exhaling, and relaxing the body helped. I can see it being helpful in real life.
Most definitely, I’ll make a point to focus on physical sensations d breathing when I find myself lost. I’ve found kissing pulls me in so I’ll focus on that and communicating to feel safe with my partner
I think the monitoring for me begins when I am being touched. I also know that when I am not self conscious, this trigger doesn’t happen. Focusing on my partner and taking what I want from them brings me back. I’ll focus on that.
I feel like my monitoring experience is a shifting of my awareness to my genitals. It pulls all my attention. I can still act and be sexual, but there is the constant awareness that my penis is not getting hard.
I will try this technique.
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I can see this being helpful. I know I feel tight and panicked when I’m monitoring
I feel like this will help because I actually found my mind slowing down instead of ramping up.
Yes, I will use this in real life. It was good to reflect on when the spectatoring starts and be able to identify it immediately.
The trick will be remembering this in the moment: trigger, body cue, pleasure cue. I enjoyed the practice.
I’ll definitely try it I am just scared that if I don’t manage to loosen and get out of the performance zone this would just worsen my mental
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I like the thought of using eye contact as a pleasure cue. I hadn’t thought of that one before.
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I think I did okay. Relaxing
i find it hard to relax and also hard to stay focused enough to actually listen to the audio
Difficult exercise, feel like I have so many triggers and don’t know how to get back to the body - I’m not really feeling anything so am I just meant to imagine…
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100%. This is really helpful.
I have these exact pattern when I move out of my body and into my head. I didn’t realize what it’s called by this makes so much sense.