Can you see yourself using this technique in real life?
What was your experience like?
I really liked focusing on exhaling and relaxing my belly. I feel like getting out of the monitoring mindset is difficult but I want to give this a try
I noticed my fists clenching and my body started feeling warm when I was visualising sex going wrong. It was refreshing to use these techniques and find a pleasure cue which works for me.
My jaw and chest tightened when I was imagining the threat body cue, which is usually thoughts of this won’t go well. I still feel the negative monitoring come up, but this seems like a viable tool to help work through it if I keep practicing.
Potentially. I will try and implement this in the moments I need it
It was hard to remember the exact moment the monitoring begins. I felt my breathing get shallower as I thought about it. The inhaling and exhaling, and relaxing the body helped. I can see it being helpful in real life.
Most definitely, I’ll make a point to focus on physical sensations d breathing when I find myself lost. I’ve found kissing pulls me in so I’ll focus on that and communicating to feel safe with my partner
I think the monitoring for me begins when I am being touched. I also know that when I am not self conscious, this trigger doesn’t happen. Focusing on my partner and taking what I want from them brings me back. I’ll focus on that.
I feel like my monitoring experience is a shifting of my awareness to my genitals. It pulls all my attention. I can still act and be sexual, but there is the constant awareness that my penis is not getting hard.
I will try this technique.
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I can see this being helpful. I know I feel tight and panicked when I’m monitoring
I feel like this will help because I actually found my mind slowing down instead of ramping up.
Yes, I will use this in real life. It was good to reflect on when the spectatoring starts and be able to identify it immediately.