So, like most of us here, I have pretty bad sexual performance anxiety, now it’s been around for 10 years (I’m 29) and it’s followed me everywhere I go, I’ll note that I’ve been watching porn daily as well for about 15 years or more. I used to be able to pop a viagra and feel 100% confident then I’d be good, but now that doesn’t even work. My mind has trained itself to fear penetration, my dick won’t even get hard in a sexual encounter if it’s with a girl I actually like, if I go fuck an escort, maybe I’ll take a half a pill (physically I don’t actually need it), and I’ll be fine. But if it’s with a woman I’m seeing and especially if she’s part of my community and I want to impress her, it’s basically over for me. And I do the breathing, the noticing of the inner critic, bring myself back to my body, I don’t panick when nerves hit, yet my dick remains soft, it even gets hard but as soon as it’s time to penetrate, it falls asleep. I’m not looking for some generic advice like talk to my partner, because sometimes it’s a one night stand, and I don’t wanna explain to every single girl that I have sexual anxiety and to please be patient with me, at the end of the day, no matter which way we wanna slice it, the women will feel disappointed if I cannot get hard for them, and aside from them, I will feel ultimately disappointed, and it will add to the cycle of fear for next time, for those of you who can relate to my specific situations, please tell me how you have gotten over this,
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I know the feeling perfectly
I have the exact same. Hypnotherapie helped me
I have had almost exactly the same experience and history as you. I’m yet to find something that has worked all the time which is why I’m on this app. However, I do hope you find some comfort in knowing that others have shared your so called “specific” experience. Reading your post has helped me to feel that my problems may not be as unique as I think and that there may be a solution out there.
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