I realise this habit has endured as long as my access to the internet, over 20 years. It emerged from curiosity and sensuality.
Now it feels like the most easy way to calm my racing mind for a moment. But I want to have sex with my partner, we never do - feeling too stressed, and maybe the drive just isn’t there because the outlet of porn takes its place.
I’ve used porn/masterbation for most of my teenage and early adult life and I’ve found it’s caused me to find myself sexually attracted to things that I don’t find emotionally attractive. I’ve struggled with intimacy with my parents in the past, to the point that I’ve created this mental blocker that gets trigged when I’m about to have sex. I don’t have ED but the moment I realize I’m having sex I go soft and can’t get it back up again. I don’t necessarily think it’s fully because of porn but I do think porn has something to do with it.
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I feel I struggle to regulate my porn use because it is so freely available on my phone. This leads to sometimes daily occurance of watching porn, which in turn is affecting my sex life. I struggle to get or maintain an erection with my partner, and I strongly feel this is because it feels so much easier to get an erection when I watch porn on my own without the anxieties that come with sex with a partner
My brain chases dopamine due to
My adhd
Boredom - maybe ADHD? Maybe, I have time, I might as well - it’s not something I epxlored til now - Ive been single for 10 yrs so this might me a reason
My sexual life struggles even though when I have a lovely partner, sometimes when I got frustrated with my situation or myself somehow I start to think about porn to calm my sex but never make me feel better after I’m done even more I feel worse. I can control myself I can get hard, even when I’m watching it
When I would try to keep my porn habits in check I would kind of shame myself into not watching it, but not even a day later I would start watching again and the cycle continues. I think this is exactly what theyre talking about in the videos.
I think I fail everytime I avoid watching porn and return to it after weeks of abstaining.
The main thing for me is boredom. Also, I have sex so rarely that I’ve developed a whole load of mental blockers around it. So porn is easier than addressing those blockers.
I avoid real intimacy because I get so anxious about performance and having to be “real” with someone. I guess porn is an easy way to replace that real intimacy.
I’ve watched porn before going to bed religiously every night since I was 12, (I’m 27 now). I honestly feel like it’s so embedded in my routine that anytime I try to quit, I feel a physical level of discomfort that feels like it can only be relieved through watching porn and masturbating
Started having some intimacy/performance issues with my partner which looking back I believe were stress related. However I reached for porn in an effort to maintain my masculinity and ‘prove’ that I could still perform. Prolonged porn exposure has actually made the performance issue with my partner worse than before, and I feel that I am now in a viscious circle, porn/not perform/porn/not perform. I am actually now scared to attempt real sex and intimacy in case I fail again.
I’m in a very similar place, ages and all. When I get comfortable with a partner it can be fine, but spontaneous sex is a no go for me
Every time I’d get caught I’d stop. Then I’d find work around, music videos, other outlets with that kind of content. I just would keep sneaking
Because I fear approaching or opening up to women, I turn to porn to cope with those desires instead of acting on them in real life.
I relate to this, when I’m busy or with my partner I don’t really have the urge too often. But when I’m alone and/or bored, I tend to watch porn or even worse, I use cam sites that I can mutually masturbate with females. As most can imagine, it causes major relationship issues for me and my partner.
I don’t I try i always fail master bastion addiction is the cause