I’ve been struggling and working on my issues with negative self image and ED associated to past guilt over porn use and trying to be more open about my feelings with my long-term partner. It’s been up and down but improving steadily. Things were a little rough when we were trying for a baby earlier this year as I put a lot of pressure on myself to perform, which didn’t help! We’re happily a few months away now from our baby arriving, which is amazing, but our sex life hasn’t been very active through the pregnancy. I’m feeling actually pretty ok about this, both of us have been feeling a lower sex drive - she’s feeling uncomfortable and not feeling sexy, and I’m very aware of not making her more uncomfortable, and also not feeling massively sexy vibes… All this to say that I’m feeling mostly good, but wanted to see if anyone else here who suffers from performance anxiety and low self esteem has also had a similar experience during their partners pregnancy?
I hope we can eventually get things back to a nice normal level when we’re both ready - I’m sure we will, but appreciate any comments of support or advice as my stupid brain has a tendency to whisper the negative thoughts in my ear!
Thanks