I can get erections but I lose them once I’m in the position because I don’t feel any sensation. Once we go back to kissing and cuddling I get it back, but I think it’s because I flex my pelvic floor everytime I masturbate and might’ve killed any sensation. Any advice?
Do you take any medications?
I am in the same boat, I think it’s masturbating on a semi or kinda soft and sqeeezing hard and fast to finish has caused detrimental damage to him
I do kegels daily and have completely stopped porn
I have tried the mindful masturbation exercise in this app but probably needs to be done over a period of time
Been there. For me it was both mental and physical. When I start checking if it’s working, I go into my head and sensation drops fast. Then it goes soft, because my body follows my stress.
The physical part is masturbation training. If you’ve conditioned yourself to fast, tight, clenchy strokes, real sex can feel muted and your pelvic floor stays tense.
What helped me: Drop porn forever. Switch to mindful masturbation. Lube, light grip, slow, fantasy only, long exhales, consciously unclench. No testing mid session.And don’t expect a 1–2 week or even 1-2 months fix. It’s more of a long term retraining, you have been training yourself for years… It would be dumb to think a few months of doing it differently will erase that… If you have true numbness or pain, get checked too by a doctor.
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