I’m planning on leaving my wife soo, I’m just getting some legal advice before “the talk”. One of the reasons is because she never initiated sex or did anything to make me feel good, was always for her. She would moan and ask why we haven’t had sex for weeks to her friends. I think feeling unwanted like this has lead to me not wanting to be with her anymore. It also has shattered what I thought was “Me” and I have picked up a gambling problem. I have credit cards and a loan for this whichshe doesnt know about. This past month though ive managed to rein it in and not gamble.
I only have 2 kids under 10, they will likely be very upset when we seperate amd I think my wife will keep me from seeing them as revenge, thats why I’m seeking legal advice first
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Sorry to hear that. At the same time, from what you wrote it sounds like you may be slipping into a victim mindset. Picking up gambling isn’t her fault, it’s a choice you made. If the relationship was damaging you, the healthier move would have been to set boundaries or leave, and focus on building a better life for yourself.
Have you talked to her directly and honestly about how her not initiating affects you? If you have, and nothing has changed, then divorce might be the right step. But try not to place the responsibility for your decisions on the people around you, you still own your choices.
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