The erections are there in foreplay and touching if I can connect with person emotionally and passionately. However, when its time to take the pants down and progress towards something more exciting like bj or intercourse. The whole attention switches to the body image like penis is fine and the penis is hard. Self conciousness kicks in and I start losing the erection and the pleasure and sex becomes mental pressure.
Moreover, when I go to standing position, the inner critic again forces me to think of my own penis and various mental thoughts kick in.
How can I retrain myself and boost up the confidence?
Any suggestions or feedbacks are appreciated. Thanks