New here and full of anxieties about getting hard and staying but trying to keep away from porn. I’ve been doing the exercises on here and enjoying them. I’ve got this niggle though at the back of my mind, worrying about what if I can’t get hard at all. I listened to an erotic story and got semi here but then that was about it as the worries climbed in. Any advice on this? New issue to me at late 30s and been with my partner for a number of years.
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Best advice I can give is this: focus on maintaining a healthy lifestyle and examine your physical and mental health closely. Doing the Mojo exercises work in tandem with a balanced diet and physical exercise, as well as Mindfulness meditations.
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I hear you. It has just come right out the blue. I’m healthy and do exercise I’m not overweight at all. I think it’s totally mental block and anxiety.
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I had the same issues as you. What really helped me was treating the inner critic as an actual different person. It’s much easier to talk to him and to gently tell him that there’s nothing to areas or worry about. I don’t know if this will help, but either way I’m rooting for you!
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Inner critic is loud and casting so many doubts in my head. It’s chronic but I’m determined to overcome. Thank you for your encouragement!! I love reading success stories and the positivity is amazing here.
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I seem to get to about what I call 95% firmness max compared to when I was younger (62 now). Which can work for partnered penetration. But I too, during intercourse, often lose even that and struggle to stay firm enough to continue. So, this app is opening my eyes to why this may occur, what can be done when it occurs, and how to be and stay in the right mindset around these occurrences. The focus on slowing things, getting back into body sensations, being willing to pivot to other acts, and being okay with the change, has been a revelation.
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Learning to be ok with it is something I’m working on and think will
Help. Very supportive partner here which is great.
It would be a mental thing bro!
Next time ur with a girl, try this - pretend that sex isn’t even on the table.
Whenever I’m with a girl and I’m aware we can’t sleep together (period or whatever)….its like a big weight off my shoulders…next minute, I’m hard during the entire movie!!
But if I get the feeling that sex is involved, sometimes i can instantly feel the chest tightening and breathes get shallow. I found this app does help tho.
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The best realisation I’ve come across here is that anxiety is the killer. It’s a vicious circle. As soon as you lose the anxiety, everything (usually) clicks back into place. One thing that has worked for me (after talking it over with my wife) is to place sex OFF LIMITS for the night, or however many nights - but do all the foreplay etc anyway. But no matter what happens, the agreement is, no penetrative sex. And then I get hard, because there is no pressure. As soon as it stops being an issue, it stops being an issue.
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Just out of a long marriage.
Met a woman. We clicked. I was scared to death about sex.
I’d had PED and death grip for years but didn’t understand it all. I thought a pill would give me an instant hardon.
My ped wouldn’t allow the med to work…
As we progressed from making out to sex- I told her I was fully tested and clean. She said maybe she should get tested too. We waited a couple weeks for her appt then for results. The fun we had in bed was unmatched. I felt like a huge weight had been lifted. I did not have to worry about getting hard enough to F.