I’m 47. Been with my wife for 10 years, married for three. We’ve got 2 kids in primary school. Early on sex was pretty normal, vanilla but plentiful. I tried a few things early on, butt play, talked about anal etc but i got a pretty volcanic reception at the time so backed off. Prior to my wife i’ve had some great, intimate relationships with women with hot mutually satisfying sex and a little bit of kink with some partners. So i would consider myself
After the first kid arrived, things shut down pretty quickly, wife got really insecure but also had post partum mental health issues. I gave a lot of myself away trying to care and support her and our kids while working full time but ended up being the villain as she only remembers the few times i reacted poorly to her abuse and constant suspicion about my activities.
Was basically chasing sex for quite a few years in this scenario, being a dutiful husband and getting ‘okay’ but not connectedly intimate sex perhaps 3-4 times per year. But last few months i can’t even be arsed with her anymore, way too much of a minefield to be worth it basically. But i’ve noticed i’m kind of off other women too. Like i still eye them but my dick isn’t in the game anymore.
Can relationship stress do this? Feel like my marriage has fucked me up for other women. I just miss the connection and making a woman cum a few times.