When someone gives me the vibe their into me I quickly want to remind them why picking me is a terrible choice
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Shows up from beginning
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Shows only sometimes but usually during.
It lingers very consistently when the signs of sex are being shown
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My inner critic shows up at the first sign or possibility. It’s toughest when I haven’t felt connection for a while or feel like we’re not connected
First sing or possibility. While it’s getting better and improving over this last month, it’s still present. One day at a time
It starts before I’ve made Any moves to move me to not taking action. Then usually I’m fine until more specific actions are leading to getting laid.
I always have some issues too when building up to it
It often starts when I find out that I’m going to be having sex
My critic shows up at any remote feeling like sex is a possibility. I am the initator so once a potential plan to initate comes into my head, I am telling myself about my response or my partners. Even looking for reasons not too…oh too tired, timing wont work, she not into it, its been too soon since last time etc etc
yep, it starts when I can see that there is the possibility of sex
As soon as It’s on the cards it shows up, it’s more manageable when the pressure isn’t on me to perform like oral sex or we’ve already agreed on a certain type of sex.
I think my inner critic comes during the act of sex. I get really aroused before and during, but the moment I am not confident or do something that risks hurting my partner or if I feel like my partner is not enjoying something, I lose my confidence and start to get soft.
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It shows up as soon as the possibility of sex is there
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Yes dude me too. Me and my girlfriend started out just oral and whatnot and I never had an issue. Sex is just a lot more pressure
It is nice to name my inner critic and understand it more. It helps put it in perspective
It shows up frequently not just during sex. I cant celebrate a win or have a distraction or relieve stress through sex, because the critic is there. Wouldnt it be nice to fuck the stress out, isn’t that what sex is supposed to be?
I can’t then celebrate a win, have a great sex without putting excuses on it., ‘because I ate beets that day i was able to fuck good’. Then i feel im ill prepared everyday that I don’t have beets.
The critic is there to doubt each time i get something where I want it. And pulls the memories of the past to the front of my mind. And the worrying thing ive been listening to this part of my brain for too long, what else have I missed!!
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I don’t hear a voice or anything, and I can usually get hard when playing around, but by the time I put a condom on I’m soft again.
My inner critic will have me look in the mirror at my belly and there’s a definite criticism there (I’m 41 and fit as hell, still have a wee belly and love handles though!).
Inner critic pops up soon as the thought I might be having sex pops up and persists all the way through. Only really goes away when I’m really comfortable with the girl and have spent a lot of time close to her.
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My IC normally comes up with a new partner. Especially one that I care about. It’s normally a voice that had me start preparing excuses for not being able to get it up e.g. Worked too hard in the gym, hungry, something else.
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Agree massively re:condoms. It’s always in my head saying what if you’re not hard enough for a condom.