As a 31 year old virgin, I don’t want to watch porn anymore as I think it holds me back from getting a girlfriend, and gives me performance anxiety. I know I really can perform, but the thought that I watch porn and have no experience is at the back of my mind.
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I feel like my libido totally overshadows my partners. Maybe it’s normal for dudes but I’m thinking and craving sex multiple times a day. So I use porn occasionally (I also like erotic stories) and I enjoy that it helps relieve that pressure.
However, I know for myself I need to be a bit choosy when picking what to watch. They are all just actors but some times the ‘roles’ or messaging can bring up negative and unrealistic thoughts about infidelity or people’s sexual desires that can bring up my own negative history
I have used it to deal with stress and performance anxiety, but I think that i now have performance issues because its derailed something in my brain
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I have learned that my relationship with porn is different from everyone else’s relationship and that’s neither good nor bad. I feel like watching porn constantly weakens my erections when I’m with my wife so I want to re-frame my relationship with porn so that I can emphasize my sexual relationship with my wife over enjoying porn more than her. I watch porn to reduce stress and because I have sexual insecurities about my own penis size not being big enough and about my abilities as a lover in satisfying my wife. I want to work on those two things to help reframe my relationship with porn to make it a healthier part of my life but not to be reliant on it as my primary source of sexual release
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I think the issue with porn for me is the fantasy that it creates. I like watching threesomes and orgies and public scenes and that’s not how my Sex life is at all. I also think the visual aid has made it necessary to both get and stay hard and I’m trying to move away from that
I don’t think my relationship with porn is super unhealthy, though there are times when using it has lowered my sex drive in the rest of my life. I want to have a better balance where that’s not that case
I’ve been reminded that not finishing isn’t a failure, sex don’t have to end in orgasm and it don’t have to be centred around penetration. It’s about people connecting
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Growing up in constant religious extremism and having masturbation and porn villinized and myself villinized for being a normal human being really stuck with me a long time even after leaving the religious crap behind. Hearing the actual science as an adult now gives me a new reference point to keep enjoying porn, but to be digitally literate about it too in a cool no judgemental way. It’s a breath of fresh air honestly. As a bisexual guy this has been amazing so far!