she started to move like she was going down on me, i thought if i lose my erection in her mouth that will be so embarrassing, then i thought if i tell her i don’t want head she’ll feel bad or ill be less of a man
but I can almost always get hard with head and i would enjoy it a lot, plus if i lost my erection i could get it back easily like i always do
also, speaking up doesn’t make her feel bad, i said it to her and we released and still had awesome sex, also it doesn’t make me less of a man, in fact knowing what i want and don’t want will make me more of a man
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I couldn’t get it up with her for the second time in a row.
I feel like I will never be able to get it up with her.
I feel like she will leave me.
I got an erection when I was next with her but in a public place. I have had an erection looking at a picture of her.
She did leave me and we had a frank conversation about it. She still wants to stay over again.
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I felt nervous initiating sex and felt awkward during foreplay and couldn’t stay hard.
My internal thoughts said, “Once again you failed” and “She’s going to sleep with someone else to be satisfied.”
I’ve satisfied her in the past and I know I’m capable of doing it again if I just continue to work on it.
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I worry that I’ll never be able to get over my erection issues, but logically, I can if I continue to work at it and try my best.
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I’ll worry I’ll not be able to be present during sex but I more and more have been able to in the last few months. My mind can improve and the evidence is the result of the work I’ve put in.
I feel your pain here. My wife rejected me for years and then we started trying again every once and a while but I have been failing.
I start worrying that if I fail I won’t get another chance for months and months and unfortunately that is true because she still doesn’t want to do anything very often.
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I thought about how this is going to be another girl that I don’t have any success with. Almost ashamed and not wanting to be around her anymore.
I did satisfy her orally. There were no signs of her being uninterested
This happens to me. I like a woman and I want to flirt with her, I want to show interest, but I’m too worried that I’ll come off as creepy. So instead, nothing happens. And then I hate myself. The inner critic berates me. Tells me all the bad things that would happen if I expressed my feelings.
I should take a deep breath and just be honest. The bad case scenarios don’t have any real basis in reality, it’s just my inner critic trying to predict the future. This also means I have to overcome my fear of rejection.
You don’t have to immediately be rock hard to have a good time. You can enjoy sex and if that happens then go with it.
I worry that it will go soft during or went get up before we start and if it’s happening now why won’t it with other partners
That because getting and staying hard has been an issue in the past, I start psyching myself out before sex and assume that it’ll be an issue each time.
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I didn’t think this would work because I’m so used to thinking negatively, but it definitely did something — a light came on in my mind.
I am so worried about embarrassing myself in front of every girl that I want to have sex with, but I know that’s so illogical and I will defeat this.
I am worried I won’t be able to get hard and stay hard next time I have sex. This is not always true, some times I have rock hard erection and wife had enjoyed sex with me
I’m sometimes worries about being able to get it up for sex, or losing it during it. But I know this isn’t necessarily true as my partner and I have had many sessions where it comes and goes. It’s perfectly ok to have fun and enjoy each other while still being soft.
I need to reprogram the source of my thoughts… they come from a place of insecurity. I can solve most of it by honouring my feelings…. Communicating them, not people pleasing and instead advocating for myself, and owning up to people when I have done wrong or when they have.
I can’t stay hard. There is evidence in my recent past that this isn’t true. I just need to get out of my head really.
I can’t consistently stay hard any more. Cialis gave me such a headache this week, I had to stop thrusting Altogether. I had no trouble a little more than a year ago, but got hit with a series of events and stress that led to physical and mental burnout. I am now healing with the help of various medical professionals and therapists. Each day is a step in the right direction. I will get my erections back and am becoming a better version of me in the process.
The thought that I can’t do things and I’m not prepared nor will ever be
I often notice myself thinking “why aren’t you hard yet? You need this. Get hard. You’re making things worse by being so in your head” when I’m in the moment. But this isn’t all or nothing, despite how much my inner critic wants me to believe that. It should just be fun! I need to be able to remove that questioning from the conversation