Hello all. I hope this post finds you well. Iām a gay 36 year old guy. Itās very frustrating. 4 months of faithfully using this app everyday and nothing changed. My urologist refuses to prescribe any pills like viagra or cialis because he says my testosterone level is fine despite me telling him I canāt get it up in bed.
The old urologist I used to see before I changed insurance diagnosed me with ED but my current urologist says I was misdiagnosed and that itās all in my head. I feel like Iām more anxious and stressed then before I started using the app.
Iāve met an amazing guy and we have recently started dating and he is amazing in every way and I feel like a failure because of my situation not sure what everyone elseās experience is here but some input would be appreciated.
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Stick with it, 4 months isnāt that long and the feedback from your doctor is Probabaly messing with your head making it more difficult. You can get cialis and viagra online from place like myrocky and others. I didnāt go though my doc I got online
Thank you for replying and I understand. Unfortunately, the online places I have found for viagra and cialis do not take insurance and I need this paid by insurance as I canāt afford the full price. My insurance is terrible at reimbursement so I donāt bother with that.
I also donāt want to take pills since this app is telling me I donāt have ED and therefore donāt need pills. Honestly I feel like if Iām just going back to pills I may as well skip the app since the pills will get me hard without needing the app. It just wonāt resolve the underlying issue which I wish to fix so I no longer need the pills.
After messaging for a bit with the mojo representative they recommended I cancel since I havenāt seen even the smallest amount of progress in 4 months. I donāt expect miracles to come falling out of the sky but I would think with 4 months I should see something even if itās the smallest thing no? I could restart my membership but with my mind being the way it is Iām not sure if the app will work.
The pills can give a bit of a boost. Definitely still work on the psych part. I find that if my head isnāt right the pills wonāt work anyway, if theyāve worked for you I think thereās hope. Maybe try a different approach with mojo - certain exercises like kegels, inner critic, dating out of your head. I just know for me it took (takes) time and it helps to know the psych root causes of this stuff. There are Probabaly other apps similar to mojo for psych ed. How is it talking to your partner? Best of luck to you.
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If itās any consolation you are not alone. I just failed again in bed with my wife. We were fooling around, all going well, I go to slip it in (sheās on top), I canāt fāg find the spot. I think to myself, have I shrunk?!? Then it dies and I canāt get it back. In spite of being on a viagra type enhancer. Iām so tired of the humiliation and being betrayed by my own body.
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Thank you again for the reply. So the old urologist I used to see when I was under my old insurance gave me cialis but I didnāt really understand why since I wasnāt sexually active and told him this. Well now the new urologist refuses to prescribe since he says Iām fine. He said he could give me extra testosterone injections which could help.
I said that makes no sense because if he says my testosterone levels are fine than that shouldnāt be the problem. Back when I took cialis even though I wasnāt sexually active I was always hard. I had to stop taking it because I was getting errection all the time when in public places like work or at a store and it was noticeable. Also since I have no issues getting hard on my own it made no sense to keep taking it.
As for my partner, we have not discussed it. We are not official yet so we are just in the dating stages although Iāll admit we have been dating for some time now so I know we will become official soon. He has been hinting at wanting sex for the longest and I keep giving random excuses to avoid the topIc which I know I shouldnāt do.
I will give this app another try and see what happens. Perhaps trying some of things you mentioned could help.
I am sorry to hear you are going through this as well. The last time I was im a relationship was over 8 years ago. Since my boyfriend at the time was the one who did the penetration, I didnāt have to worry about getting hard since I wasnāt going to town with him he was going to town on me.
But he was the first person to ever give me an errection when it comes to being in bed with someone. After we broke up, I was never able to get hard with anyone ever again. Every once in a while I would agree to meet someone for a random hookup and I could never get it hard.
Eventually I stopped the hookups and spent all these years after I stopped not sexually active. Eventually the urologist I was seeing gave me cialis even though I told him I hadnāt been sexually active for over a year. I stopped talking it because of the very noticeable raging boners I kept getting in public places. Plus since I am able to get hard on my own and since I wasnāt sexually active I didnāt need them.
Now the guy Iām dating keeps hinting at sex and I keep giving him excuses like oh not tonight Iām too exhausted from work. Or Iāll tell him since Iām diabetic they my diabetes has me feeling off though Iām not tired and I feel just fine. I hope this app can at least help you fix your situation.
I would strongly recommend you talk to your partner. For me that has helped a lot to take pressure off. I think maybe even in your case, the fact that your partner is a guy, Probabaly makes it easier for him to understand male issues
A literal happy ending for meāthe episode I described was at a b&b we got for Valentineās. Fortunately my wife was supportive and we managed to have a good time at dinner/dancing afterwards where we both had plenty to drink. That had us both quite relaxed and her more aggressive when we got back to our room and things did end well.
The moral of my story is not to advocate drinking but to relieve yourself of the burden of being 100% responsible for your arousal. Unfortunately my series of failures in bed is so long that my wife has become afraid to initiate. Itās way to interpret that as her own lack of interest or attraction.
I think what sealed the deal for my success after my dismal failure was her more active participation.
My brain gets in my way more than anything else, perhaps my little take might give you some encouragement. I hope so anyway