Think of an example of when you are particularly hard or soft on yourself. What might the self-compassionate alternative be?
Reading erotic stories. Why am I reading them ? Is there an alternative source of stimulation that would be more self sustaining ?
Hard on myself by feeling guilt for being on my Instagram or after I watch porn
Soft by distracting myself with YouTube instead of thinking about how I’m feeling in the moment
I feel hard on myself after telling myself not to watch porn and then do it anyways. I tell myself I’m a failure and that I’m too far gone to be helped.
I’m soft on myself when I know I want to apply for a different job but I can’t be bothered to fill out the full form so I do the bare minimum then I go and sit in my room watching YouTube instead
I’m soft on myself when I wanna be sad and anti social and put in my headphones. I’m hard on myself when I tell myself you’re a loser before and after watching porn and doing it anyways.