Your environment is part of your sexual system. A sound in the background, a light that’s off, a pace that got too fast. These things land in your nervous system before you’ve consciously clocked them.
Scan the room. Identify what’s pulling your attention away and use neutral data or a change in focus to bring your focus back.
Calm environment, lubricant on hand
just focusing on all the great sensations smells feels and visuals in sex with my partner.
The physical sensation of how the bed feels on my skin
Mentally “draining” the overstimulation container. I’ve been known to ejaculate upon contact, that usually happens when I’ve focused too long and too hard prior to a sexual experience . Also if I haven’t taken the time to properly train during the week, I can ramp up the experience mentally. Whereas I need to slow down everything
I need to think more in the present rather than what has happened or what may happen
Look out for distracting noises and sights which may be pulling me out