This one comes up more than most men expect. A short moment of contact with your partner, not a conversation, just a connection, can shift things more than any solo reset.
An acknowledgment goes a long way and offers a reset.
Have we had a satisfying day together
Yes
Stay calm. I’m not being judged
Am I assuming things my partner is thinking or feeling without asking?
if I’m sensing that my partner is not into the activity, check in and ask them if something is up and conversely let them know if something is up with me.
The sensory experience of my partner like how they smell, what it feels like to kiss them
Slow down and be intentional, caring,
Focus on how I feel in the moment with them
Focus on her exact movements and touch points and what I think about them. And then Whether I like them or not