It does happen pretty much immediately but on low volume, and the volume increases as i approach the time im supposed to have sex and is blaring when im trying to get the condom on, etc
They usually appear immediately before anything happens. Or when I am on my own
The second I know sex will happen …my critic shows
Happens in my every day life when I need to preform. causes instant anxiety, especially with the thought of sex
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My inner critic shows up everytime I think im might have sex
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Mine shows up when I think I might have sex, and then it shows up even stronger during sex.
Mine shows up in the lead up to sex. Sometimes I can shake it off once it starts but not always
Mine shows up when sex is planned - in the lead up to it. It’s most prominent right before sex is about to happen.
Mine shows up when I get my gas house because I know she wants it its most intense when we are in bed
Usually immediately as a flash of anxiety and then it might build up slowly
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My inner critic is usually a feeling that when my body or mind senses that sex is approaching, it rears its head. When I’m getting intimate, it can show up right when I feel like we are heading in the direction of sex. It doesn’t pop up during foreplay.
It shows up at the thought and anticipation of sex. It gets louder when we get to the bedroom and tells me I won’t get or stay hard
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For me, my critic has two levels, if it’s not complete success it’s a complete failure, not just with sex but in different areas. I have learnt that the success or failure scale is purely down to the expectations of standards I put on myself.
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It’s do or die for me.
Any negativity at all, even an offhand comment can make me spiral
It’s a feeling that would start when I know sex is going to happen and gets stronger right up to point of penetration
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My inner critic shows up as soon as I know sex is a possibility. Hell it even shows up if I see an attractive woman in the gym, it will say " yea she’s pretty or hot, but you’d probably struggle to get it up"
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Sometimes my gf and I will be foreplay and we’re just going at it. I’ll make my way down there and she hasn’t started getting wet as she usually does I panic and instantly think something is wrong with me. At that point even if I have a rager I either lose the erection completely or it snaps me back into reality just enough to where I can’t climax because the entire time I’m stuck on “she’s not into it”.
Its always lowkey there but when sex becomes ”real” its becomes like a screaming voice
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I have a partner that’s never been able to finish with anyone else and that knowledge hurts.
It makes me feel like they’re not enjoying the experience and makes me struggle with my own performance
It didn’t flare up immediately, more so in the bedroom but in the build up at a bar, I don’t tend to think about it. Maybe a little if I know it’s on the cards but usually it’s in the bedroom itself. But the critic is also there outside of sex
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