My inner critic appears when we planned sex or directly when it comes spontainously. I have to work more on this to get confidence
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My inner critic shows up the minute sex becomes a possibility and it’s a combination of thoughts and feelings feelings of disappointment and thoughts of incompetence.
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Exactly the same for me. The moment I learn that sex is on the cards, my stomach does a lurch.
My inner critic always seems to be present when sex is even a distant possibility.
The moment that sex is on the cards, even if it’ll be later in the day, my stomach lurches. I feel like it’s always there. Ever present and watching me, should I get into a sexual encounter.
What I believe is that my inner critic comes from a place of wanting to shield me from what it might seem as dangerous situations but that I need to reprogram it to turn off sometimes, so that it’s just me and my partner.
My inner critic showed up when sex becomes a real possibility. It tends to go away when I’m alone I think it’s trying to protect me from what I perceive as a dangerous situation
As soon as sex is a possibility or right before it’s about to happen. My inner critic thinks of everything that could go wrong rather than the pleasure available. This needs to be flipped.
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My inner critic starts before knowing sex is on the table. Its hard to get rid of it but knowing that its only my own thoughts gives encouragement to take control
My inner critic starts during sex, making my doubt my ability to please. It takes over and makes me a selfish lover. I need the critic to take a back seat and allow myself to become a confident lover again.
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Constant thread in the background of my life. Thinking about how often I should be having sex and how I dont really want to anymore due to incompetence and then heightened when the time to do it approaches again
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It’s strongest in advance: when I’m on my own and have time to worry. I’m aware of it then and my anxiety. Less aware of it when having sex.
I’ve learned that my inner critic is always ready to critique me during any sexual thoughts throughout the day
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I learned my inner critic is a success barrier meant to protect me from ascending
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Most aware of it whilst having sex
My inner critic appears when I buy in to old, false narratives and I don’t question them. When I slow down and breath I come back into my body - then I can question the narrative.
I’m most aware of it when I’m alone in my thoughts, especially in bed Leicester during sex
My inner critic is a constant feeling, but becomes more intense when there’s an opportunity for intimacy.
My inner critic is actively present and it intensifies when it’s time to penetrate
There all the time and becomes more vocal at penetration
It starts just before bed time
There all the time, but much more silent in the morning. This is why I’ve always defaulted to morning sex