I went soft few times during sex previously. I am anxious that It will happen always and I feel like I’m a failure. I assume that my partner look down on me if I fail sometimes
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I’ve had a hard time getting an erection before due to anxiety spikes and therefore I’ll always have an anxiety spike if I am not successful and this will feed into itself
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The worry is going to prevent me from getting an erection
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My last two times having sex I’ve ejaculated almost instantly, but I know that in the past that’s not happened so it must be possible for me to get back to normal
I worry my new partner will feel unattractive if I can perform in the moment
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I can get hard as a rock thinking about having sex, but when she is lying there naked I can’t get hard. Is it stage fright?
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I can’t believe I can’t cum again, it is the same storey and I won’t be able to finish when having sex.
I overthink things. I’m not sure if I should have been as open as I was with my girlfriend. I’m regretting telling her I love her because if the way she reacted afterward. I’m going to think about it differently, focus on my own confidence and keep doing the work to build my mental strength to deal with rejection.
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The thought of not being able to get and maintain an erection makes it not enjoyable
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The thought of not maintaining an erection makes my heart race that it ends up coming true
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I met a cute girl online and kept thinking she is ghosting me even though I’m chroniczlly online and she has alive
I’ve felt this problem of not staying hard or getting hard enough problematic BUT I’m working through it and being kinder to myself. Just gotta keep speaking good things to myself. We’re all getting there guys!
You got this bro! Slow and steady!
I feel you! Same thing. Just gotta think positive thoughts and try your best. Be kind to yourself, even when small improvements happen.
There’s two things I think about. One is me not being erect in the moment when she’s in the mood and now even having a rash (probably from friction) which keeps us from advancing our sex life. Two is my insecurity about my hair loss.
The fact that I won’t be able to stay hard enough to have sex
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If I try to enjoy myself, I build up these imagined expectations of what it should feel like. I tell myself I should use this as a chance to practice for sex. I feel like I need to imagine a woman or craft a specific fantasy to get off. Most frustratingly, I think about how if I just watched some porn, I would be able to get off… However, I have gotten off all by myself before. When I’m high it’s really easy to relax into it. I’ve done this all before and I can’t tell why it pops up like this
I can get horny hard all day long Thinking about having sex with my girlfriend The minute she takes her clothes off in it we’re in the moment I sell things I put myself Mast I worry that she’s going to be offended And then I end up just not being able to maintain It gets into my head and I Fall backwards But I think What I have to look at is being more kind of to myself maybe tell myself I am great good positive she’s still loves me I still love her where in this together I Just Want to Have Fun
That I won’t be able to finish. Again.
My partner will be disappointed or even upset, thinking that I’m not enjoying the sex or that she isn’t attractive to me if I don’t cum.
I’ve had far more orgasms during sex than I haven’t. It’s an unfounded fear/idea that sticks in my head and I make it a reality by acknowledging the thought.
That my perspective on things is not necessarily reality.