I find it very hard to reprogram my thoughts because I have no evidence to counter the more negative things I think about regarding my erectile disfunction
I think creating balance and diversity in sexual pleasure can alleviate the pressure to only have satisfying sex via penetration. I was in a situation where penetration was the only thing valued so if I wasn’t hard then sex did not really happen. Talking about this imbalance can help create more clarity.
That I’m not good enough, I can’t even do the basic task a man should do which is satisfy a woman.
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That I will never be able to maintain an erection during doggy, in particular, standing doggy.
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Last time I had sex I caught myself thinking about getting hard and tried to hard to distract myself from it
That the night is over if I cum too quickly right away
That if I couldn’t get hard last time I won’t be able to get hard next time.
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I want to reprogram the hesitation to engage - I am afraid I will not be able to get hard or stay hard and that keeps me from trying - I know that I have had normal and good experiences before so it is an over generalization that it will happen again - I need to fact check myself there
I got the game. I need to realize that whatever I’m doing she already likes, and I don’t need to stress myself out about perfection
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That I won’t be able to keep it up for a longer, more satisfying length of time. That I need to use meds.
That I’ll never be able to have intercourse with my wife again.
That I won’t be able to sustain an erection
That I won’t be able to get it up and perform physically
My thought is that I won’t be able to get hard to perform the act. I t was because the situation was rushed and didn’t feel right. this is a form of all or nothing thinking. The reason this happened is because the moment didn’t feel right and it felt rushed.
The negative thought is that I’ll put too much pressure on myself and the situation, and then I’ll get stuck in my head
I went soft having sex and thought that would always happen in the future. I was overgeneralizing, because the circumstances weren’t ideal at the time and I felt performance anxiety.
I need to keep reminding myself that it’s not the end of the world that I go soft. My boyfriend doesn’t care and he’s still getting his rocks off! My main concern is am I letting him down and he still makes an effort to see me
Concern that because I haven’t been able to reach climax the last few times I have had sex despite being able to maintain an erection for as long as 30min means I will not be able to climax in general or with this partner
I feel like it’s the money time, after 2 years of struggling, ups and downs. I’m not sure my wife can keep on dealing with this for long… this stresses me, and I find myself almost constantly thinking about it, and the only thing that gives me peace, is when we have a successful penetrative sex…
I’m anxious about satisfying my partner, it also has affected me that several partners have cheated on me.