I didn’t get hard right away but eventually I did. Not for long but enough to cum. We both orgasmed. The next day she said she had a great time.
Because I have previously had an issue getting or maintaining an erection it will definitely happen this time.
I couldn’t get out of my head last time and I feel like I’ll just keep failing so what’s the point in even trying, but the not to long ago I was able to be in the moment and enjoy it instead of stressing
I have had issues in the past with not being able to cum quickly even if I feel like I’m reaching orgasm. However, I’ve realized that forcing it or giving that too much weight is more to my detriment.
Need to take everyday as a new opportunity to be better
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If someone has stuck around with me after several failed sexual attempts, then they actually do like me and they are on my side - they want me to fuck them, and they aren’t immediately going to jump ship as I fear
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I should probably start believing her when she says I please her. I’m letting my invented thoughts outweigh what she consistently expresses to me.
I need to believe the positive things she’s telling me and not focus on the negative thoughts in my head
Negative: I believe if I can’t hold it in it I’ll bust too fast and my partner will be dissatisfied, I shall not cum, but I can’t feel anything to keep me hard, and keep stoping and stoping is not making her feel good
Positive it’s okay to feel good, and it’s okay to came fast if you can hold it in, just enjoy the moment with her and let her know that you can’t do it this time, she’ll understand, next time could be the day once you get better
Negative: I was so looking forward to sex tonight and can’t believe I ruined it and couldn’t get hard enough
Positive: we were close, my wife really wanted me on a cold night, It led to positive communication after
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Negative: I have had problems in the past to get aroused or stay aroused, and it might happen again this time.
Positive: It hasn’t happened for a while, and remember that week together recently where we had no problems at all over the time we were together. Remember that I can still satisfy my partner without penetration.
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Negative: my inability to get hard is going to mean she is unsatisfied and think wistfully about former partners, eventually leaving.
Positive: she was very supportive, and reminded me she loves me, and I was able to bring her a lot of pleasure without penetration, multiple orgasms.
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I should have cum last time. Again i got stressed and couldnt cum as it’s been a while.
Or definetely i wont be able to come next time or will lose my hardness.
Positive: he said it was good last time. I feel his expectations are lowered so average moments make him happy.
I’m currently on and off, sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t. The last few times haven’t worked and I feel back to square one
Positive: for around a month I was absolutely rock hard and lasting around 15 minutes. I felt good, and happy, I can’t perform 100% every single time. I can also make her cum without my penis when I’m not fully feeling it
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I will be shit in bed and my partner won’t feel satisfied, so i build up and get nervous and can’t get an erectikn as i constantly worry
I won’t maintain an erection during sex , I’ve already lost before we’ve begun
Last time before I had sex I was constantly thinking that I would not be able to stay hard when I opened the condom
sometimes i keep my erection and we have great sex but most of the time recently i get anxious and lose my erection
Positive i know i can get a good lasting erection and i know it’s just mental
When I have an erection during foreplay, I will not be able to maintain it until intercourse per se.
I fight the fear of “oh no, not again” of losing erection or cum too fast… and it comes true.
Positive: She wants me to cum, even if it is fast. I can satisfy her in other ways too.