In some experiences ive not been able to get or maintain a strong erection and I feel like a failure but I know that in some experiences I have been able to so its psychological.
I regularly discount the positive. Even when she says she has enjoyed it I repeatedly play over in my head that she must be lying. Logically this is not the case as she is still here and has stated a number of times she likes the fact it takes a long time, and likes to and can’t wait to do acts.
I also am very much all or nothing. If an element didn’t work as well as hoped I focus in on that to the exclusion of what I enjoyed. I do have moments that feel good and fun. I know that sometimes I end up a bit giggly (a bit embarrassing sometimes) and I can’t always cum without me using my hand. But it is getting better I know it is we can work through it, we seem to have a good vibe and connection
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I often fortune tell, fears of cumming to quickly and pushing her away.
Because I’m telling myself this I’m more anxious about it which then makes it more likely to happen.
I want to try be more neutral with things, if I finish to quickly theres always other ways to keep going. And if she’s being distant it’s probably just because she’s genuinely busy
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This is geared toward erection issues which is not my problem. Getting frustrated wieh this one size fits all app.
My consumption of pornography has led me to only being tuned on by specific stimulus that won’t happen in real life
I still do fantasize about having regular sex with a partner and that gets an erection going to my other stimulus isn’t the only thing that works
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I pretty much catastrophize and discount every positive. My mind won’t let it go
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Go all or nothing. I think because I had issues this time, I always will
i want to reprogram the idea that I won’t ever be able to last as long as I used to before I got PE
My erections don’t define me and neither does the hurtful and judgemental behavior of my ex partner based on my performance anxiety.
The thought that because I lost my erection it will happen again next time and the time after that.
Just because I could not control my ejaculation the last time does not mean I would not eventually regain control
just because i can’t get it up one time doesn’t mean it happened every time and doesn’t it mean it will never happen again because it will
Just because I didn’t last long this time it doesn’t make me a complete failure and bad at sex. Sex is more than just penetrative sex, don’t discount all the other positives because you had this irrational belief that ‘sex’ is only defined by its penetrative aspect.
Losing part or all of my erection during foreplay and leading up to penetration is nothing more than a momentary change in my body and is not indicative of absence of desire to have sex
I’ve lost an erection during foreplay multiple times in the past. Just because this has happened before doesn’t mean it’s going to happen again.
Just because i couldn’t getting fulling hard this time doesn’t mean next time it want be fully hard
I’m in my head too much, think my body tenses up and my stress levels spike affecting my erection I’m also thinking I don’t want to finish to quickly so then I lose my erection but Im a fit healthy Male I need to just relax and it will be fine and if it’s bad who cares worry less and build up more experience
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I will never be able to enjoy sex without overthing, i will never be able to satisfy her in bed and she probably is put off. I need to accept that she loves me and won’t judge me liek i don’t judge her. and express that she doesn’t care about size and how good i am. I will stop caring and enjoy sex in the future without worrying about how good i am, hard i am or long i last
I have lost my errection during sex a far amount of tims and ahe has gotten up set cuz of it. But I need to get my confidence back and understand and believe that it wont always happens.
Too much info, new terms and complicated