Will I ever get a hard erection again?
I can be tense and overly scared of early ejaculation. Also constantly fear she won’t enjoy the experience. If I relax it is likely to be a better experience for both of us.
Negative: I can’t get through this any time soon, the dysfunction is a bigger mess than I thought and forming better habits hasn’t worked
Positive: Observing and feeling how your body works and knowing what it needs has eliminated so much from the pattern of dysfunction that a fix feels near—I can feel that much for definite despite what my inner critic thinks
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Negative: I am not as hard as I am when I masturbate.
Positive: I need to stop thinking about it and start to just enjoy it more.
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Too complicated, too many steps, too many new terms and concepts. Too difficult to refer back here when you want notes taken etc etc etc
Negative - I’ve had trouble maintaining an erection hard enough for penetration, I hope this it might happen the next time I have sex (it did). Is my wife going to be disappointed or feel like I don’t desire her anymore.
Positive/Neutral - that hasn’t happened before more often than not I am hard enough for penetration. We discussed the issue when it happened and she said she was happy with just oral, she reassured me that she knows I still find her attractive and I need to believe her.
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I can be very anxious and tense. I know it’s not rational but I’m scared of shat will happen if I fully relax, I don’t want to let go and accidentally hurt someone, I feel like I need to filter everything that come into my head thoroughly to make sure it’s accurate/valid.
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I need to allow myself to warm up to sex. It doesn’t feel one sided and I remember that there is no real threat.
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“is she enjoying this??? Maybe if I try harder, oh no that’s too much she hates it. O fuck I’m losing my boner, she probably thinks I am not into her. Gonna have to jack off to get it back, god I feel fucking stupid jacking off rn. Ends welp this is just how it is now.”
“God she’s so fucking beautiful rn, her smell, her taste, her voice. remember that it’s not a competition or race, it’s a fun activity and the optional goal is to just do it. Let yourself feel and experience her and let her feel you. And remember that if either of you aren’t into rn, it’s okay there’s always next time.”
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You nailed it!! 
u honestly did insanely
well
I feel very self-conscious about my body naked and assume my sexual partner will feel the same. That maybe they’re ‘tolerating’ what they see to have sex and they can’t really fancy me that much.
I feel like a failure because I can’t get it up without her playing with it. It sucks. But I feel I will be able to fix this problem in time. And it’s not permanent. When there’s a will there’s a way! And she’s beautiful, fun, kind, literally the perfect woman. And I just feel this shit lets me down. It’s sad 
My girlfriend will be disappointed is we don’t have sex - she’s actually been very understanding and supportive
I should be aroused at all times and ready to have sex with a full erection and full desire.
I’ll never be fully hard without being 110% aroused
It’s not getting fully hard, i’m losing my erection because i know i’m not going tk be good at it. She’ll be pissed off again and frustrated. Every time feels like a test, she must think i’m a loser!
In reality she fully understands what i’m feeling and cares more for me than what’s she’s missing out on! She loves and wants the best for me and will not judge my sexual performance.
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That my partner looks at me as less of a man because I come quickly. She loves me and wants to work on this with me. She cares about me more than just the outcome of a sexual encounter.
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Felt embarrassed and like she wasn’t gonna wanna be with me anymore
In reality she was totally understanding and only one who cares about my performance is me
My latest partner told me my penis was more than adequate and more average than I realised it was. I always believed it was less than average… and that’s just it, it was MY negative thought.