What attitudes do you have about sex, pleasure, or your body that might be getting in the way of orgasm?

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Any idea where they came from?

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Busy head..

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Shame!

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I’m not comfortable with getting it started with partner but I want it and I want him to want it and start!!

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Overthinking and feeling like there’s something wrong with me!

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Is he happy, satisfied, attracted to me, is he thinking about someone else?

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I take way too long

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I go above and beyond to get him going and make sure he comes a good one than its over.

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I just feel like I learn to understand him and how to make him feel good. Yet he just uses same tactics each time when they don’t work for me, it’s predictable and it’s quick. He can come when I am barely warmed up. Now I have this sense I’m just a body that pleasures him.

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I do not like my body I wish I was smaller and had a better butt. I feel so unattractive and undesirable like iam an idiot

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My partner can get there faster than I do and I feel awkward if I still need time to finish. And some days I feel awkward about my shape when my partner wants to see me.

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I want it too rough and that may be hindering I think I may associate sex with punishment

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What’s wrong with me that he doesn’t want to ever touch me but I always touch him and have to get myself worked up to at the same time.

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I don’t understand why I can’t see myself the way that he sees me. It’s even hard for me to take compliments, I say thank you in response, but inside my head, I am just absolutely bashing myself, saying the nastiest things to myself.
I have so much self hatred that I don’t know how Anyone would want to be with me.
Along with such a negative self image, I take my clothes off, and just start to panic, and I feel like it because I’m scared he is going to look at me, the way I look at myself.
He says all he sees is beauty, inside and out. I am totally blessed to have a man that loves me And adores me the way he does. But I feel I’ma sabotage everything, all because of how I see myself

Hope all that made sense, I am just typing as it pops into my head.

Thank u…

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I dont talk about sex very openly and quite private and limited in what I think

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I get distracted by negative thoughts about how my body may look, if I’m the one to initiate sex that time then I feel self conscious about that — I feel like I coerced him into it and he doesn’t really want to. I also put his orgasm ahead of mine, if I were to finish and he didn’t I would feel horrible and inadequate that I couldn’t make him finish.

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Just that I’m not married.

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That im broken and only there for his pleasure, am not worthy of pleasure myself

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I feel exactly the same

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I want us to feel pleasure together, I want sex to be an “us” thing, but so often my spouse isn’t in the mood so I just keep my libido to myself these days. They celebrate me when I tell them I masturbated today, but never express any wish to have been there or seen it or anything. I just want to feel close and together, but they seem content for us to never or extremely rarely be intimate together, like masturbating separately as needed is totally fine an enough. I just want to feel like they want me - not just hotly, but for that togetherness - as well. :’(