What parts of sex do you cling on to that might be stopping you from orgasming?

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Or, what do you push away?

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“just relax” I tell myself x 1000 which, plot twist, is not relaxing

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I don’t like being on top for too long

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I don’t feel too much sensation and I take a very long time to orgasm manually
I cop out by reaching for a sex toy instead and then never end up learning what I like. I struggle to tell my partner what I Need and don’t feel a grown ass woman .

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I also don’t really know what I like. I’ve tried putting sex toys on my nipples and letting then suck, but I felt gross. I’ve also tried chatting on an AI app to arouse me mentally, but again, nothing. Can someone give me an idea of something that can please me?

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I don’t feel anything and I take awhile so I just let them finish and stay quite

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I think about it too much

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I have always faked it to make my partner feel good and at this point I’m an A-List actress in bed. I’ve given up trying to cum during sex and figure I’ll finish myself later.

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I overthink all of it, it ends up ruining it for me and then I can’t finish thinking about it

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I think of how much I want one so my partner doesn’t have feelings of inadequacy. He thrives to please. And I fear eventually, if he continues to “strike out” in making me orgasm, that I will become less desirable and he will take his elsewhere with someone more in tune with their sexuality…

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How I look, because of my belly, and how long it’s been since it’s started

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Maybe get an idea of what your turn ons are from watching porn?

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If the time it takes me to orgasm, makes me frustrated and impatient, then my husband is obviously frustrated, impatient, and who knows what else, tired!!

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Push away or str8 stop

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I get stuck in my own head. That something is wrong with me.

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Taking too long, my body as well

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Sometimes I freeze and just go with the motions. Its like my mind is dulling the sensations of pleasure, and I can’t stop thinking about either myself, my body image, their perception of me, worrying if I’m actually desirable or just convenient for use.

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I have sensitivity issues as well. So can relate to this alot..

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YES! I feel this 1000% and then the toys just end up numbing me out and then I don’t end up cuming anyways and then I end up mad.

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I want sex really