The negative thought is that I‘ll lose my erection before we have sex.
The alternative thought is that when this has happened before, we’ve switched to doing other acts that relax me and get me hard again.
The presure will be there from whoever i have sex with…but that is not the case, you have allready been shown a new way of thibking, no presure just plesure
The negative thought was "She’ll think I’m a loser if I’ll have trouble getting it up during the ONS.
The alternative: “I don’t know her, and I shouldn’t paint her as the worst possible person in my own head.”
Negative thought- I won’t be able to get it up in the moment
Response- I know I can and have proved to myself I CAN
Response- but this time could be different
Response- it could be and that’s okay but realistically it’s only happened a handful of times ever and my most recent experience was positive
I’ll never be normal and perform well all the time.
I have overcome so many problems before and there is no such thing as normal!
There is nothing wrong with me, there never was.
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Why am I not getting morning erections.
It’s okay not to have them
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Because it didn’t go perfectly last time she will lose interest in me.
We still had fun even though penetration didnt fully go to plan. Sex isn’t always perfect
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That it takes two to dance tango
Sex is more than just looks and physical attraction. It requires two people putting in the effort and build up to a great sex life
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That the person I’m with wants me to cum for a happy ending. All or nothing thinking. With enough time I’ll be able to finish and either way putting their satisfaction first is what I enjoy about sex
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I’m worried that I’ll struggle to conceive naturally due to ED issues. Catastrophising. There are plenty of people who struggle with ED who are also parents. There’s no reason to believe that my ED struggles will prevent me from having a child naturally
Catastrophising is one I want to reprogram as even after writing it down my thoughts about not making it with another partner look silly when written out
Just because I don’t get hard quickly doesn’t mean I can’t
Also don’t try and force yourself to have sex. Being stressed hurts your chances of getting hard
I was unable to orgasm from penetration during sex. I ended up masturbating to completion. This kind of sex feels incomplete to me and i feel like my body is letting me down. I am disqualifying the positive because my partner said the sex was great and initiated contact to meet up again
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This is exactly exactly what happens to me, which has led to being more aware during sex and the observing the erection, etc.
Orgasm doesn’t mean everyone didn’t enjoy the sex
Just because I had one episode when i lost my erection doesn’t mean that’s the norm. I was tired, stressed, a bit grumpy and not in the mood so it’s logical that would happen. Now I’m feeling better I’ll just be back to normal.
Im nervous that if we try to have sex, I won’t be able to do it. This happened before and I’m afraid of the reaction I will see my wife have. This is wrong though because I’ve done it successfully so many times in the past. I know that I can do it