Why I can’t get out of my head when my partner is going down on me. She always end up thinking she’s doing something wrong or that I’m not attracted to her and that’s not true. I be enjoying it and want to cum so bad but just don’t. Idk
Just that it’s hard to do so but I want to do it so bad
I know how to stimulate myself to orgasm, or by my husband orally stimulating me, or the use of toys.
I can orgasm by myself but with my husband I’m always in my head. It works when he does oral but i feel like I’m taking too long sometimes and i can’t finish. So i fake it.
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I can orgasm alone very quickly. I can never finish with my husband. Not even using toys or tongue. I can’t relax enough. And he finishes very quickly so I feel rushed.
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Why men can’t last long enough to even turn you on enough to want to get into it? I mostly dread me giving any foreplay whatsoever BC i know in doing so that I’m only speeding up his orgasm and my left feeling like, “why did i waste my time even getting undressed”. I love foreplay and the more I trust my partner the more into i can be. And in trusting, I not only mean trusting him with my body, or to think of me, but more importantly and overall, knowing I can trust my partner to be loyal and faithful. I love trying new things, new places, videoing, ect. But lying to me, cheating or invoking insecurities thereof, denying me, turning me down only reserve’s me, keeps me closed off in ways a man wouldn’t want you to be, and makes it where I just prefer getting myself off rather than have sex with my partner. Then over time, self pleasure becomes my go-to and sex becomes dreadful BC of the insecurities and awkwardness i, myself, feel more often than not. Then I lose interest in my partner, pretty much, altogether sexually. And during sex, I’ll work my vaginas muscles in and out and fake getting off BC it’s easier than hurting his feelings, or even trying so hard to get off and it just not happening no matter how you directed him, ect. And it’s virtually impossible for me to get off orally. It’s happened once ever in my life. Why? And Why can’t I squirt? Even trying to myself.
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That I feel like I’m close maybe but I doesn’t happen
How hard it is to get me in the mood or past the racing thoughts and then ensuring that penetration is it is combined with the clitorial contact that is necessary to make my orgasm possible
You literally just described and explained myself to a tea in my situations scenario but added to it is the fact that my husband of 18 years has cheated so I have cheated in return but the fact that he shows somebody else tells me right there that I’m not what he would want because I did and have done everything he ever wanted in bed and still will do everything to please him but I can’t have any type of excitement or fun or orgasms or anything because it’s in the back of my head and it comes forward knowing that I’m really not what he wants so I almost just hope that I could be or ask him what she looks like and what it was she did that I need to do or can do to be her so that you want me to and it’s just frustrating and it’s very depressing and again if I find myself not sexually attracted to him anymore because of it now I have issues with trying not to pursue other men that find you attractive just looking at me with clothes on let alone if I had taken them off so I’m right there with you
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I think what feels more frustrating and confusing with me. Is that during intercourse with my husband I can feel the orgasm building up. I don’t think I’ve ever orgasm with a man before him from penetration and maybe I’m confused on what the orgasm really feels like I know I’ve orgasm with him, but with me I’m alone during our intercourse and he doesn’t. He doesn’t feel like it’s very masculine of him to moan during sex.
Havin to chase ot down when can feel it build up then no energy to keep the repetitive motion it needs to blow off
I have gotten to the point I have to use my rose everytime to orgasm and I know it bothers my husband and I always feel rushed.
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I am with a new partner and I don’t think I have ever a had an orgasm, like ever.
I didn’t have sex or stimulation for almost 8 years and then when I did finally. .it is painful and I can’t orgasm
And my partner gets off easily and quickly..I don’t get a chance to really get in to it..he also has ed and takes pills to get hard..
Unsure just touch makes me flinch sometimes I get shy and embarrassed
My frustration is that my b/f wasn’t raised in a very touchy feely kinda family, so we don’t do some of the couples type of things that help us learn what our partners like or dislike. So early in our relationship I think he gave up on being able to get me off, to the point where he barely tries anymore.
The second im touched the wrong way i instantly feel my arousal evaporate but i dont know how to stop it or change it or fix it nothing seems to help even clitoral stimulation feels nice but not orgasm nice in the way ive always experienced things when i do it myself
I want to take my time or not even have sex just be held naked
Sometimes when I am touched it feels more like they’re trying to dj than stimulate anything