When it comes to finding any distress beneath your habits, what are you most curious about?

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I’m curious about whether my partner will accept my sexual kinks

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Finding alternatives that are beneficial rather than going to porn eg. Create habit to work out instead of watching, or just read a book, meditate etc

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Stress and porn always go hand ot hand for me. When I feel overwhelmed. Stress is the answer. I never learnt to cope with my emotions properly in a healthy way. The analogy of the elephant and the rider was useful to me. I am curious to see how I can be okay with the elephant and still in control as the rider. I have always felt out of control when it comes to porn and compiusive masturbation.

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I think realising that I’m using it as a pattern of self-soothing will help me identify this, and hopefully build habits to self-sooth in other ways

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If I can find healthier practices/habits to manage distress, how long do I need to do it consistently before those practices/habits become more rewarding than going to porn and masturbation?

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I want to address the childhood traumas that drove and continue to drive me to porn.g

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I feel as though when I’m stressed or tired I turn to porn and unhealthy sexual behaviours

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Love this!!

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My curiosity is: What amount of pornography and masturbation is allowed once it has become a compulsion?

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Same. I’ll act in and pass out when I’m stressed or tired. I feel like it helps, but it doesn’t always.

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I’m wondering the same thing.

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How long will it take for me to break all this down? I’ve had a porn/masturbation issues for years now and breaking that down and rebuilding better habits seems like too big of a wall sometimes.

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Will I be able to fully recover and gain my confidence again after breaking the habit? The stress will always be there and I hope I don’t resort to my old destructive habits

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I hope there is a day where I can be completely honest with my partner about my sexual kinks and authentic self and that she accepts me and loves me.

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I’m curious about exploring other ways to cope and emotionally regulate. I have some kinks, fetishes etc., I’d like to explore as well, but I wouldn’t say they are the main drivers of my porn usage and masturbation habits.

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Curious about this for myself as well! Porn has been my go-to for emotional regulation for years and I’m ready to expand my toolbox.

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I’m curious about exploring other ways to cope as well as just having a healthier sex life in general.

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I’ve learnt about the elephant and the rider and some other helpful things like surfing the wave

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I know I particularly use porn not even for masturbation, but sometimes as a cope if my wife and I have had an argument or if I don’t like the way she’s treating me or if I feel I’m doing significantly more of the parenting etc

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I do it because it’s a habit and feel ashamed, hopeing it’ll be my realise